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FYI we are not teenagers. I just love this photo, and yes we were once  teenagers:)   One of the most important things in the African culture is harmony and togetherness in the family and this has been the central pillar to an upright society. Every family had a very strict father, most times, it was very hard to sit and have a conversation with him because he was a disciplinarian who ensured that nobody did anything to tarnish the family’s name and reputation. This may sound dictatorial, it actually is dictatorial, but for some reason it worked. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that we should go back too that style of living per se. What I would like to present to you is the thought that parents need to spend more time with their children then they are doing now. I will tell you why in a bit. A friend of mine likes to call it economic orphans, to mean young kids who lack the presence of their parent because their parents are out building the economy. The real...

Many times the creation story is one of those life lessons that we first learnt and memorised in Sabbath school. I teach children and that’s one of the first stories that  very young children are taught. But recently I gave this story some very deep thought. Photo courtesy: https://pixabay.com/en/creation-adam-eve-religion-47473/ Do you know of any last born children, maybe you are one. Well when you think of a last born, what comes to your mind? Probably a spoilt child, or maybe an overly pampered child, sometimes a very stubborn and difficult child, sometimes they are very adventurous, are risk takers. Usually all the attention is given to the last child. However not all last born children have the above characteristics stated, this is very general I thought about the order of children in a home and likened it to the creation story, now this is my other way of interpreting the creation story. Think about it. Man comes in as the last creation, i.e the last born, but...

I don’t know how to bring out what I am about to write about, but read through with me. David, a man after God’s own heart, that’s what we read about him in Acts 13:22, many people never think that David really deserved that description, well for whatever reasons that they have. Psalms 51 is one of those chapters that convince me that David really did deserve that title, but that’s not the point. There is something about being at the wrong place at the wrong time,that awakens me this day even as I share. 2 nd Samuel 11:1 And it came to pass after the year was expired at the time when kings go forth to battle that David sent Joab and his servants with him and all Israel; and they destroyed the children of Ammon and besieged Rabbah.  But David Tarried still at Jerusalem   It was because David was in the wrong place at the wrong time that he ended up seeing Bathsheba naked, the he lusted for her that he sent for her, that he committed adultery with B...

The human nature is very difficult to deal with. Contentment has been one of those things that all of us struggle with. Well let’s just say, everyday seems to  be either a step forward/backward. When we don’t have a job, we complain about how miserable and frustrating it is to look for a job, when we finally get a job we complain about how much it takes away our free time; how much work we have, how mean our bosses are and how poorly paid we are. When we move to higher paying jobs, we still complain about how better other companies pay and treat their employees, when we start our own business we complain about how hard it is, how draining it is, how much of our energy it has taken. A couple somewhere distressed about not having a child while another couple is distressed about having their first baby because they weren’t prepared. If you are married it’s a problem, if you are single it is still a problem, if you are thin it’s a problem, if you add weight it is still...

According to an article written by Brunell and Gold based on research done in Chicago by Oxygen Media Survey, 25% of women would rather win America’s next top model than win a Nobel Prize. 81% of 10 year old are afraid of being fat this is according to National Eating Disorders Association and finally according to Pew Research Center Poll 54% of women would rather be hit by a truck than be fat. I found this statistics interesting but shocking at the same time. You may be wondering why am I sharing with you statistics on American women? I will tell you why. At this age and time, I am convinced now more than ever that Africa is following the footsteps of the Western culture. We are imitating almost everything that the west does. Obesity is becoming a matter of concern in Africa, anorexia and bulimia, these were unheard of in the African Culture but lo and behold! They are creeping into the African culture very fast. The African woman has always been considered a beauty ...